It is not your friend
It is not a comfort
It is not a safe place
It is not all under your control
It will hurt you
It will make you hate yourself
Hate the disorder, not yourself
IT IS SO HARD to find recovery-inspo posts that aren’t about calmness, serenity, acceptance, happy recovery support animals, etc. What about anger!? Where is the space for frustration, fear, regret, pain and anguish? Eating disorder recovery is tough as hell, non-linear, messy and emotional; if there is no place to start feeling ALLLL the feelings we’ve numbed out, how can we work through them?
Moreover, anger can be galvanizing and motivating! Focusing anger on your disorder works to extricate it from feeling like an integral part of you, which is necessary for recovery, and focusing it externally and on social justice issues can reignite a passionate flame to hold the real oppressive systems accountable and to stop invalidating and hurting one’s own body. There is a much-needed space for anger, and the femininity-focused ED sphere needs to reject this proliferation of recovery-inspo that is unhelpfully aligned with traditional feminine ideals of calm mindfulness and nurturing oneself (or at least should position nurturing oneself as a direct rejection of nurturing everyone else and ignoring one’s own needs). Serenity is a decent destination, ableit ideal (idyllic?), but there are many necessary passion-deployment stops along the way, like holding racist, fat-phobic, ableist, cis-het patriarchal systems accountable for impossible beauty standards and objectification/denigration of our bodies; like self-care as a revolutionary act, like using our anger to claim and take up space or to move our bodies in functional, strong ways. Furthermore, these recovery-inspo quotes reek of dangerous individualism/liberalism; finding community and eschewing isolation is SO important (no one recovers alone!), and yet these mantras often fail to emphasize that. Also, fuck the mottos whose meanings change drastically when you replace a sunset with a fitspo picture; ‘no excuses’ recovery-shaming is just as unhelpful (and potentially harmful) as fitspo BS.
so GET ANGRY and feel how awesome and empowering it is to feel and recognize your emotions, to have a subjective experience often denied, maligned and pathologized. Sit with it and practice not numbing it out. Good, now go outside, recruit some other angry people and put it to use to change the systems that encourage eating disorders and restrict care to the economically privileged and fickle insurance gods who can actually pay for it.
Share. Please. In honor or this nameless hero whom because of this letter he or she sent me, could save a life tonight.
again, my box is always open.
Thought its been a while and I should reblog this for a signal boost and a hope that it can get to more people. My box is always open.
This is society for everything, if you are considered “conventionally attractive” than whatever you do it’s appealing. However if you are considered to be less attractive than whatever you do it’s wrong.
This deserves so many notes. I have heard all of the black quotes behind my back. It’s really demoralizing.
omfg reblogging till the end of time
omg this post need to be reblog forever
I love this so much that it actually makes me feel a genuine sense of happiness
Be more concerned about your character than your reputation … because your character is what you really are while your reputation is merely what others think of you.
- John Wooden (via onlinecounsellingcollege)
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Growth is painful. Change is painful.But nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you don’t belong.
- Mandy Hale (via onlinecounsellingcollege)
1. Your skin may never be perfect, and that’s okay.
2. Life is too short not to have the underwear, the coffee, and the haircut you want.
3. Everyone (including your family, your coworkers, and your best friend) will talk about you behind your back, and you’ll talk about them too. It doesn’t mean you don’t love each other.
4. It’s okay to spend money on things that make you happy.
5. Sometimes without fault or reason, relationships deteriorate. It will happen when you’re six, it will happen when you’re sixty. That’s life.
- Five things I am trying very hard to accept (via peachringslushie)